Subject: Goals, Goal setting, leadership, commitment
How often does it happen that you get excited about some new project and then
lose interest as time goes on? How often do you have a great idea or
inspiration, but then lose interest?
When you lose interest, you’re
left wondering why. This hot-to-cold spell begins to undermine your confidence a
bit. You can’t seem to explain to yourself why you’ve lost interest. You then
start second guessing yourself and your ability to make good decisions when
something new comes about.
The answer to this seemingly
difficult conundrum can be found in the analogy of the child opening gifts
mentioned earlier. Once you’ve had the experience (i.e., been there done that)
you are now in a position to judge if it is something you really enjoy doing.
With every experience you gain greater knowledge or insight into what you like.
For every experience you have,
you need to make a choice. When you lose interest in something new you are
trying, do you view the attempt as a learning experience or as a failure in your
thinking? If you chose the former, learning experience, you’re on the right
track. As we explore our environment, we learn what gives us pleasure and what
doesn’t. It’s only human.
With every new experience, you
as a person are transformed. Once you’ve had an experience you are no longer the
same. Your nature changes with every experience as you learn and grow.
Instead of second-guessing
yourself (i.e., beating yourself up for changing your mind), begin to ask
yourself this simple yet important question, ‘Why did you lose interest?’ Ask
yourself questions about what aspects of the project you did and didn’t find
appealing. What was it about this idea that made you lose interest? Conversely,
what attracted you to it in the first place?
By questioning or having this
internal dialogue, you begin refine your thought process, your search patterns.
You aren’t thinking failure, you’re thinking like a torpedo. You’re thinking and
refining your thoughts about what you really want. You are defining the road the
back to you by refining what makes you happy.
It’s only natural to get bored
after you’ve learned what ‘you wanted to learn’ from the experience.
Other times, when we try
something new, we realize that it wasn’t the experience we thought it was going
to be. Whatever the answer, you are smarter and more in touch with what will
make you happy. And remember, if you decide to move on to something better or
different, it’s O.K.
When you take your cues from
others about what you want, you will ultimately end up being unhappy. Why?
Because your “goals” aren’t yours, they don’t belong to you, you rented them.
You can’t rent goals from others. It doesn’t work!
Have you ever rented a car? Do
you take as good a care of the rental as you do your own car? Of course not!
When something belongs to you, you protect it or take care of it. The opposite
is true also. If it isn’t yours, you won’t protect or care for it as well as if
it were your own.
The answer to the question as
to ‘why’ you lose interest after being so excited may be found in that you never
really wanted it in the first place; you just thought you did (read this
You may have seen others doing
it and thought ‘You would be good at it too’ or you accepted the ‘I could do
that so much better’ mentality. In both instances, you allowed your desire to
rent someone else’s goal to take priority over going after your own personal
As any financial investor will
tell you, renting is always more expensive then buying over the long run. In the
end you receive no equity for all your payments or the dues you put in. Don’t
rent your goals; buy into them.
Please share this with a colleague or friend who may need some words of inspiration.
Victor Antonio G. is an author and motivational speaker.
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